Why worry?

As an empath, I love to feel across the world; people’s happiness, sadness, joy, surprise, et cetera. Although these emotions of happiness, sadness, joy, sorrow, are all interlinked, there are subtle differences in each of them. Sadness being the most noticeable for its life-zapping abilities. Anything that takes the life out of us is easily identified.

Somebody is sad right now, somebody is almost always sad in the world. We can’t all be happy, right? Or so it seems. Sadness looms around, like a saturated cloud, looking to rain down on any unsuspecting person. And it’s funny how easily we give into sadness. Ask yourself, what’s making me sad at the moment?


Look at the illustration above. You have a problem, you can solve it, then why worry? You have a problem, you can’t solve it, then why worry? You don’t have a problem, then why worry?

Worry uses up a lot of our energy, yet that’s what we do all day, worry. We worry about the future, we worry the past will catch up with us, we even worry about now. But there’s something about the future we need to know; the future can be any time, depending on your direction in life. You can even bring the past to the future if you keep moving toward the past. You can even be stagnant if you refuse to move and progress in life.

You consciously have to worry less. Too much worry is time wasting. Try to meditate instead, just breathe in and out, long breaths. You should be fine.



Hello everyone. Today is a wonderful day, as every other day almost is. It’s a good day to smile. Most often than not, we hardly smile. Maybe it’s some bad news, some bad country news, relationship issues, work issues… there’s always one issue or the other that steals our smiles from us.

The question is; how do we get our smile back?

The fastest and easiest way to get your smile back is to smile. Sounds easy-peasy, right? And yet it’s the hardest to do! I dare you, right where your are, at this very moment, to smile. For no just reason, smile. Widen those lips to the point that your teeth are exposed. Stay like that for ten seconds. How do you feel now?

Smiles are contagious.

Let’s investigate what it is about smiling that makes us feel good. According to popular research, when you smile, that squeeze at the tail end of your lips sends a signal to your brain, activating the reward center of your brain which in turn spikes up the happy hormones. So as you can see, smiles are all happy. But there are some rare smiles that mask sadness and sometimes depression. There are, of course, scientific ways to differentiate fake smiles from real smiles. But the whole idea of smiling is to generate happiness. And guess what? Smiles are contagious!

Aren’t we lucky that we can trick ourselves to be happy? How many times have you smiled today?

What is a life well spent?

A grandfather dies. A baby dies. Such is the irony of life. Which moves me to ask, what is a life well spent?

What is a life well spent?

Why should some come into this life and spend decades while others come and spend hours or weeks at most? Does living longer insinuate a fruitful life?

…the pinnacle of our existence lies in our ability to survive.

For now life is all we know and have, and it appears we are always trying to live more of it in terms of time. In fact, the pinnacle of our existence lies in our ability to survive. Down to the minutest creature on Earth, survival is the codeword.

But I ask again; what is a life well spent?

Some people tend to answer this question by taking risks, chasing their dreams, traveling, and so on, while others answer this question by being famous, rich or influential. If the latter is the case then, Pablo Picasso, Michael Jackson, Steve Jobs, Leonardo da Vinci, Bill Gates, and Jeff Bezos either lived or are living fruitful lives.

Life is about time and what we do with it.

A deeper look at life and you’d see that life isn’t about how much we achieve in our time on Earth. Life is about time and what we do with it. Someone might not have all those decades to build an empire, but just enough time to touch some lives. We are all wired differently. Some people believe in making money upon money upon money, while some others are more socially inclined toward helping people live better lives. And a few others with a bit of both. The stressor here being ‘helping people live better lives’.

In your quest for purpose, are you helping people live better lives?

Hope is all we have

I read a post titled Ask the Question. Ask the Direct Question by jennymaire4 where she talked about suicide and how to tackle it. I was pushed to ask a question in the comments; Jenny, what do you think instigates suicide? Her reply was thus; Wow, that’s a difficult question. I think it’s different for everyone, and I don’t want to speak for anyone. Getting to a deep, intense, dark depression and feeling completely hopeless.

I resonated with the word ‘hopeless’. You see, hope is all we’ve got in a bleak existence; hope of some afterlife, hope of things getting better, hope of answers to existential questions. Hope is all we have. Take that away from the human being and you’re left with a bag of bones.

Hope is all we have. Take that away from the human being and you’re left with a bag of bones.

About a year ago, a medical doctor in Nigeria suddenly parked his car on the Third Mainland bridge in Lagos, climbed the railings, and jumped into the lagoon. His body was later found after a couple of days. I remember upon hearing this news, I thought, ‘What would make someone park a car on a bridge and jump off the bridge into an obviously scary body of water?’ And I couldn’t find any answers!

Hope is all we have

What makes people commit suicide? What makes the human being want to take his/her own life? We could spin theories all around the place; maybe a terminal illness, maybe a violent threat on life, maybe chronic depression, just name it. But all these cases lead to a single evidence; hopelessness.

Hopelessness is like a dark cloud that fills one’s universe such that there is no point in existing anymore. In contrast, hope is that one thing, that one thread that literally keeps you alive. Without that silver lining, we fall, deep into an abyss we’ve always feared; hopelessness.

There are some days I battle with my existence, I guess this is quite normal for the average human being. And I kind of observe myself down the emotional blackhole. One thing I have come to observe is that no matter how low I get (and trust me, I have gotten as low as low could get) there always seems to be that last drop of hope that springs me back to life like magic; be it some random thought, maybe a change in mindset, something inconsequential.

Sometimes I feel hope is that thing that God or evolution uses to prod us along, just the way a lioness prods her trailing cubs. There is even a passage in the bible that sticks in reference to hope where the rich man looked up to Abraham and cried, “Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in this flame.” Just the way water soothes our thirst, that’s the same way hope obliterates depression.

Give someone some hope today, compliment them, smile at them, shake their hands, show them that you care. Drop some hope on the world today.